What does Arcanum 9 (The Hermit) mean in relationships?

Arcanum 9 (The Hermit) in the relationship position of the Destiny Matrix speaks of depth and the need for space. For such a person, it is not the number of connections that matters, but the quality: a genuine, profound closeness with an understanding partner. They need personal space and time alone with themselves even within a couple, and this is normal—it is how they recharge. In the positive pole, there is loyalty, depth, wisdom in relationships, and the ability to be a pillar of support. In the negative pole, there is withdrawal, loneliness, a wall against intimacy, fear of letting another in, a habit of 'retreating into one's cave' and shutting others out, and excessive demands on a partner. The lesson of the ninth Arcanum in relationships is to preserve your depth without hiding behind it from love. How this Arcanum sits for you is visible in the Matrix. Build yours using your date of birth.