Does anyone else feel like their 'stable' side and their 'messy' side attract completely different types of people?

I've noticed the version of me that has a routine, pays bills, and makes small talk tends to draw in very grounded, practical partners. But the moment I'm sleep-deprived, emotional, and honest about my chaos, the people who suddenly show interest are exactly the ones who'd never survive my normal life. Is that a compatibility issue or just me being weird?